Why I built this

I'm a former McKinsey Partner and my husband founded and runs a software company. We have three young kids, and are navigating the same trade-offs many families face every day.

As a professional, I spent years helping leaders make complex decisions under uncertainty, using evidence-based approaches grounded in research on decision-making, leadership, and how people and systems actually work. What that work taught me most isn't that there's a single right answer — but that clarity, alignment, and thoughtful planning make hard choices more manageable.

At home, our life is full and pretty chaotic. My husband started his tech company during COVID — the same season we were parenting two toddlers and I was trying to make Partner at McKinsey. Like many families, we spent a few years in survival mode. Before all that, though, we had been stepping away every year for what we call a “family offsite,” using simple, research-informed planning to reflect, make trade-offs, and set direction together. We lost that rhythm during some of those intense years, and we felt it. We were living with inertia, not intention. When we restarted in 2023, the difference was immediate — not because life suddenly got easier (in fact we had one more kid!), but because we were creating space to think and choose together again.

Organizations rely on vision and planning to clarify what matters, guide decisions, and move people forward together — and I believe couples and families deserve the same level of intention. Most couples I know are thoughtful, capable people but many are living life on autopilot — not because they don't care or they don't want something different, but because the demands of daily life are relentless and the space to step back and actually choose rarely appears on its own.

I built Tandem because life has a way of making decisions for you, and Mike and I wanted a way to live life intentionally.